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Tuesday, March 3, 2015

3 Long Distance Relationship Truths

Moving to Edinburgh meant that I would now be in Long Distance Relationship (LDR) for the 4th time since I have been with the BF. Since we met when he was in the Army, there was the year long deployment followed up by my 6 month move to Indianapolis.

We met when I just turned 18 and was about to head off to college, with myself having no interest in ever dating an Army guy I met the tall guy who got a turkey with me in bowling. Little did I know that after meeting him, my no dating Army guys rule changed and almost 7 years later I am still stuck with the tall guy.

To be honest when we said to goodbye to each other as he deployed after knowing each other for a little less than a year and dating for about 4 months I didn't know where the relationship would go. I was 18 in college and saying goodbye to a guy that was absolutely fantastic but still I was saying goodbye for a year. The deployment made our relationship what it is today and while 18 year old me had no idea that we would stay together, today I look at that year as something that have made all the other LDR moments easier.





To start LDRs make you really learn to communicate . While the communication aspect was a little difficult when he was deployed we relied on the random phone calls, sometimes Skype, lots of Facebook messages and a journal for each of us that we sent back and forth every month or so. I learned how to actually listen and realize when he was in a bad mood, exhausted, or needed just to talk. I also figured out that while he may have been 5,000 miles away in a war zone, he was still there to hear about the things that I would tell him if he was there next to me.



The next thing that I think we have managed to take from every moment of our LDR is to appreciate the moments that we do have together. When the BF came home for R&R during deployment we managed to have a jet-ski incident leaving me with 15ish stitches in my nose along with some bad bruising. Every bone in me wanted to stay out of the public because I looked terrible, yet I knew that in 1 week the BF would be back to Iraq. So instead of staying in and ruining the last week together, we still went out and did all the things that we planned on. While I did get some terrible stares, we enjoyed every awkward moment of that week and am glad that the BF stuck by me even with the bruised face and messed up nose.



The last thing that I realized from being in a LDR is that having a life outside of being the relationship makes things much better. I have seen couples who seem to only be happy when they are together, they are always the people sucking face on nights out with friends, they are the ones who bail to spend time in bed with each other rather than celebrate a birthday with friends. While there is nothing wrong with loving to spend time with each other, you have to have a life outside of being a couple. I love having the BF with me and yes I would prefer to have him with me all the time, but I realized that to be happy you have to have a balance.



In the end I know that and LDR is hard, it is filled with moments of doubts, tears, happy moments that make your face hurt from smiling so much, and a person who you can spend 365 days apart for the one day that you are back together.

If you have/are in a LDR what are some things that it has taught you? I would love to hear what you think about being in a LDR!

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Wednesday, February 25, 2015

Year of Festivals

I have been planning out the my 'Bucket List: A Year worth of Festivals' around Europe that I want to venture to. I personally can not wait to go out and explore more of Europe and why not do it when there is a festival/celebration aka party to attend to! One thing that I have figured out since moving here - is that there seems to never be a lack of fun!





So lets get to it and see month-by-month when and where I plan on visiting! 

January - Hogmanay , Edinburgh


To start the year and celebrate as the old one ends, I want to have a proper Hogmanay celebration! The city of Edinburgh from Dec 31st (with pre's happening on the 30th) till Jan 1st. The city is lite up by fireworks, street parties, and the epic dip in the River Forth! A true way to bring in the new year, all in my home city!

February - Viareggio Carnevale, Viareggio , Italy

The largest Mardi Gras style party in Europe and in Italy! It includes a month full of celebrations up to lent. Celebrate during the day with one of the many parades and then head out to a club for a masquerade party! Oh and to close out the festival a GIANT firework display!


March- St. Patty's Day , Dublin, Ireland

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A day full of green (my favorite color) and drinking! Yes please! A four day party is finished by a parade on March 17th, with drunk Guinness loving fools (right around 1 million of them)!

  April - King's Day, Amsterdam

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Described as the 'anything goes party', I first heard about King's Day during my time in Amsterdam and since then I have been wanting to go! They party in the canals, they wear orange, and the celebrate like total badasses this one day every year! Even the cops try not to intervene in festivities.

May - Stars of the White Nights, St. Petersburg, Russia

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A festival filled with arts and probably the thing that makes me want to visit the Scarlet Sails. A fleet of ships sails out with giant red sails and put on a massive firework show! Not only do I love anything with boats, I also want to go and see Old World Russia! 

June - La Batalla de Wino de Haro (Wine Fight)

A food wine fight that takes place every June in Haro, Spain. The crowd wears white t-shirts and fills super soakers with red wine, leaving one epic battle! While there is the whole fight appeal, I am also interested in having an excuse to try out Spanish wines! 

July - 'Running of the Bulls' , Tommorowland, Bastille Day

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Another summer month with so much to do and see, so I picked three things that I must do during the month of July. To start go and see the 'Running of the Bulls' aka Fiesta de san Fermin in Pamplona, Spain. Head out to see Tommorowland in Boom, Belgium this way I can quit living through Helene in Between post about the music festivals. To round this threesome off I want to spend July 14th in France celebrating their version of July 4th!  

August - Fringe Festival, Zurich's Street Parade & La Tomatina

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August, damn you for being a good month! Seems the summer months in Europe have to many options to only have one, which is why I have 3. This is an even better way of planning a trip for every August that I am living here! To start I have to attend some of the Fringe Festival in Edinburgh, head back to Switzerland for Zurich's Street Parade, and La Tomatina in Bunol, Spain. So to start thing off The Fringe Festival will be filled with performances galore and seems to make Edinburgh a hot ticket in August. Zurich's Street Parade is right on the lake and is a perfect way to close out the summer. Lastly, La Tomatina a GIANT FOOD (aka Tomato) fight! 

September - Highland Games, Scotland

Well this technically isn't a festival or really a party either, but it is a must-do in Scotland (or so I have been told). The Highland Games have been going on for over 1000 years. Oh and on a side note the Braemar Gathering is often attended by the Royal Family! 

October - Oktoberfest, Munich

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"Massive consumption of beer" -  literally this is what Oktoberfest stands for! Keep in mind that while this is a festival called Oktoberfest, its starts in the middle of September and runs till the first weekend in October!  

November- Bonfire Night, England

November was a hard month to fill, especially since the typical celebration I think of is Thanksgiving Day. No worries though, this night is filled with history, fireworks, and bonfires. So if you happen to find yourself in the UK in early November, lets dress up and head out to see Bonfire Night. 

December - Christmas Market, Dresden, Germany

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Picking which Christmas Market that I wanted to visit was tough, there are so many amazing ones! I finally picked Dresden because it has eleven, yes ELEVEN, different 'experiences' in one market. I personally plan on visiting as many markets as I can, but this one took the cake. For a list of the 10 Best Christmas Markets, visit here


Well there it is my year worth of festival/celebrations/parties whatever I call this list, it is for sure a year full of fun!

Are there any festival must sees that I haven't included on my list? I would love to hear any input! 



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Thursday, February 12, 2015

5 Tips For Staying Motivated

Moving to Scotland and starting my PhD program is much different than I imagined how my PhD would go. To start things off my advisor week one told me to 'relax and get settled' meaning that Week One of school I aimlessly wandered around or on cold days binged on Netflix. Then there is Week Two, the week we were supposed to meet, but thanks to an old roomie from the IMA in London, I made a quick trip to visit! Meaning two weeks into my PhD and still nothing! Finally Week Three came and I finally met my advisor/supervisor and my secondary supervisor, fears about this meeting deserve a whole other blog post.
After the meeting I was handed some readings and told that research would be done when the weather is nicer. This meant that my only assignments was to read, read, and read some more. Know I love the being in a lab/doing the research, the other aspects aka the reading nonstop, not really my thing. 

Unfortunately 
Year One of a PhD student = Lots of Reading..... 

With this new life of nonstop reading and taking in the knowledge, I have had to learn to trick myself into getting shit done. Which is why I have figured out 5 Tips that keep me motivated to read on or just do work in general. 


1. set a goal for the day/hour/30 minutes. 

Yes, 30 minutes... Working towards an end goal is much easier than just working. So an example of this is saying I will read one chapter and take notes in 3o minutes. I then move on to tip 2. 

2. REWARD YOURSELF. 

With a piece of chocolate, an coffee, a new Kate Spade bag, whatever... Of course the reward size should be based on the amount of work you do. For me I say reading one chapter means I get 15 minutes free time, reading three chapters is one episode on Netflix. Finishing year one will be a Kate Spade bag or a trip, probably both being honest. 

3. blast your favorite playlist or have your favorite show/movie on. 

#1989 seems to be my jam lately and I have it on repeat when I need to focus and get work done (no lie listening to it RIGHT now as I am writing this post #getblogpostdone). Sometimes I fall back to my Harry Potter marathon, which means I can crank out 4-5 solid hours of work without distractions.

4.work in a group.

One advantage to living with undergrad chemistry students in Scotland is the amount of work that they have, which means group work-together happen in the living room at least twice a week. Telling each other to get shit done is much easier when there are multiple eyes to catch you not being productive. 

5.get out and do work.

Lastly, head out and do work. This could also be a reward for one full day of working at home. I personally love to head out to a coffee shop and do work, of course it is one with free wi-fi. Not only is getting out to a new environment mentally simulating, it also gets you out of your typical anti-work habits (aka laying in a cozy bed and watching Netflix #alldaylong). 
Well there it is , the list of 5 things that have been helping me to be a productive PhD student or at least a semi-productive PhD student! Now that I have this blog post done, I am off to read another chapter about historic window glass! 

Any tips that you have for staying productive? I would love to get advice that others use!

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